"The body is important, but the mind is all together important. And the most important thing about your mind is what it is fixed upon."
- Dallas Willard
This post has taken me quite some time to write, and as I've reflected on this, I've realized it is because the topic of mindset hits a little too close too home. It is something I struggle with daily. I hope these reflections and learnings from my journey can help you on yours as you work towards living a flourishing life.
Over the past year, I have been challenged to pay attention to my thoughts and what I let my mind dwell on. I do a pretty good job at hiding it, but I am not a naturally optimistic person. That being said, those who are closest to me are WELL AWARE of this struggle! I honestly wrestle with my thoughts and have a tendency to get trapped in a negative mindset, ruminating on little things to the point where they take over. I am ashamed to admit it, but I have ruined countless special days such as birthdays and anniversary dinners, because one thing didn't go as expected and I literally let that thought run rampant in my mind to the point that I could not see all the good that surrounded it. I am a first-hand witness to the fact that what we think about shapes who we become. When I get caught in a ruminating pattern it is so hard to step out of that mindset, and the longer I let those thoughts run wild, the harder it becomes to stop the cycle.
It has been said that discouraged people tend to think discouraging thoughts and worried people, tend towards anxiety. We truly are a product of what we let our mind dwell on. Our thoughts often become so automatic, that half the time we don't recognize we are thinking them or even acknowledge WHAT we are thinking. Having been on this journey for quite some time, I think we tend to fall prey to numerous lies whispered ever so subtly in our minds, or further, simply get distracted with the amount of stimulus we submit ourselves to everyday. Which keeps our brain in a distracted, frenzied state not allowing us time to pause, acknowledge and reflect what we spend time thinking about.
How often have you bought into the following lies or similar:
'You're not pretty enough'
'You don't have the skill-set to be successful in that venture'
'You're not a good enough mom/dad'
'Why try, it won't make a difference.'
Despite the years of schooling I have had in the field of health and wellness I have come to realize that a flourishing life starts in the mind. There is truth in the quote from John Milton who states in Paradise Lost, "The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of h